We’ve all probably been in this situation before.

We didn’t think that we can do something but when told that it’s real easy, hey presto, we too can do it.

It can be something as simple as unscrewing the cap of a bottle. We all know how tight these things can be. Sometimes we will try to unscrew the thing to the point were we are red in the face but it just wouldn’t budge. But when we see that somebody else can easily do it (sometimes these people are not necessarily bigger or stronger than us), we find that we can do it too.

What’s the difference?

It’s because when we were handed the bottle the first time, we were usually told that the cap is tight or it’s stuck, so we too believe that it’s going to take a lot of effort to unscrew it and we just don’t have it in us. But when somebody else succeed where we failed, we immediately see that it is possible.

Whatever we do, if we believe that it can be done, we can accomplish anything and achieve success.

You’ll be amazed at what can happen when you believe in your abilities. An example is the man who lost his ability to walk after an accident. But if he believes that he will be able to walk again, it is possible. It might take time and many hours of physiological therapy, but as long as he believes in his ability, he will walk again.

Isn’t that what happens to our life most of the time?

There are people who want salary raise but don’t believe that they deserve it so they never got it.

There are people who want to start a business but don’t believe they have the capability so they failed.

There are people who want to win but don’t believe they could be the winner so they lost.

When you have the right belief system, you’ll succeed simply because you know it is POSSIBLE for you to be successful. Most of the time, the hardest part of becoming successful is to convince your own self of the possibility, not others. It is YOU who decide whether you want to achieve your goal or not and when you set your mind to it, nothing’s going to stop you.

Everything else is just background noise that can be tuned out.

Isn’t that interesting? All it takes is a shift in our believe system.

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Emotional stress is a part of existence whether we like it or not. It doesn’t matter how we each try to stop it, it’s going to keep coming back and possibly haunt you each day of your life. Stress and anxiety might be expected when you go through your typical schedule, or simply appear into the open and stun you.

Difficulties, major or even minuscule, have an affect on all of us emotionally, mentally, and also physically. Regardless of whether we each keep on smiling on the surface there is frequently tension on the inside. The most effective way to cope with tension is to never allow it to get a foothold. You should manage it ahead of when it actually begins to build – so the secret to your success depends on you.

Basic Pointers for a Personal Development Plan

Looking after your body should be the first step toward self-improvement. Everyone should be receptive to precisely what our body demands by just knowing how tension influences our physical being. Below are a few strategies that you can make use of start getting the emotional stress out of your system.

1. Give yourself a break. It is crucial to know the limits of our body in dealing with stress. Numerous people might think that the more the body is subjected to tension, the more powerful we all end up (if it doesn’t kill you it makes your stroger,) but this is absolutely false. Your body is able to only do so much and may deteriorate once we surpass our own potential (overtraining in athletics is an example.) Any time you feel some aches and discomfort as you are doing work then you take a moment and loosen up before it turns to something more painful.
2. Unwind and enjoy. Engaging in some physical activity will often help to unwond. A good massage helps in that it relaxes all those tight muscles that result in soreness and restrict your body’s flexibility.
3. Work it out and sweat it out. Exercise is truly a great way to deal with emotional stress in addition to keeping your body in good shape, but sometimes we’re unable to devote much time to it. Even a light workout a few times per week will do amazing things for your cardiovascular function in addition to lowering your stress levels.

Your mental outlook.(mindset) also has a lot to do with how well you deal with stress. Working on that mendset is as important as working on your physical body. Positive, daily affirmations are a good way to point your mind in the right direction, and goal setting is another.

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There is so much to gain in the world. Love, money, wisdom, friends, success, faith, peace and happiness are at the top of most lists. The difficult question becomes how we can attempt to get all of these things and at the same time not lose our souls in the process. The answer may come down to a simple matter of choice.

Choices exist all around us. We can choose to live a life of service or we can choose to invest in a career that has the promise to be financially rewarding. We also have the choice of doing both.

How to Gain the Whole World and Not Lose Your Soul

When you become truly self motivated you realize that success is not a destination, it is something within you. It is the self motivational attitude that you take to every aspect of your life. Not just the big things, but the every day mundane things.

Success is not something you grab a hold of, pin down, then show off as some kind of trophy which some less aware people have come to view it. Successful people don’t just achieve success, they live it on a daily basis.

Many definitions of success describe it as a journey. However I believe it is more than a journey and is in fact a lifestyle and indeed a self motivational lifestyle choice.

Success leaves clues for us to follow and here is a list of 20 of the success clues to look for:

1. Focused on worthy goals
2. Work towards them (we’re not just looking for short cuts)
3. Pushing for high standards, but not bogged down in seeking perfection. Perfectionism stops many of us from being successful.
4. Seeing the big picture while attending to the detail
5. Persistence is the self motivational watchword, no one is successful without persistence.
6. Balancing the need for big steps with incremental improvement
7. Holding the gains as they come, then not backsliding into old behaviors
8. Helping others of like mind, particularly the less fortunate, to set and achieve their goals.
9. A commitment to delivering on promises
10. Knowing that your goal is still there after the buffeting storms subside
11. Not surrendering control to others by losing your temper
12. Seeing hate and abuse from others as a gift you choose not to accept from them
13. Refuse to acknowledge failure as a stopping point, and see it as a learning experience instead
14. Forge alliances with those who will commit to supporting your goals
15. Knowing that everyone has within them the resources to achieve their goals
16. Realizing that success is a self motivational choice you make, not one that is made for you
17. Seeing money as a scorecard to the energy you create in the world, not success itself
18. Respect others and their vision of success, even when you can’t agree with them
19. Living in the now and valuing every moment of every day
20. Valuing health as the great generator for a self motivational and successful life style

To adopt a success oriented lifestyle you need to be a detective looking for clues. The list above is not meant to be comprehensive, but merely a starting point to begin your quest.

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Your 10 Steps to go From from Perspiration to Motivation

Does everything feel like a struggle? Why not use some inspiration to create the energy that propels you up and over life’s inevitable speed bumps? Here are ten solid steps to get you inspired.

1. Be grateful: Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, take a look at what you do have . Write a list of the “10 Things I Am Grateful For Today.” Do it now.Take a minute each morning to mentally express your gratitude for at least 5 things, whether it’s the air you breathe, the clothes on your back, or those closest to you.
2. Celebrate and list every success: How would you like to have a boss who only ranted about what you did wrong or what you failed to achieve, never giving you credit for the wins? Take a look in the mirror and make sure you aren’t abusing yourself like a boss from hell. Keep a running list of your successes for the year and post it near your computer or nightstand. Pay yourself on the back everytime you read it. Learn to speak to yourself in a positive, uplifting manner.
3. Learn from your setbacks: Failure happens. Accept failure as something good, as proof that you are taking risks and stretching yourself. However, in addition to accepting the losses, you must go back and, like an unbiased scientist, ask yourself what went wrong. What will you do differently in the future? Mistakes are only truly valuable if you learn from them. Even if your home is a problem – this is just a ride, as Bill Hicks
   used to say.
4. Fill your glass: Forget the debate over whether the glass is half empty or half full! Why not take a pitcher and fill it up? Tackle every situation with the perspective that you can affect the outcome. Acknowledge that you have the power to choose.
5. Look for role models: Who inspires you? Is there someone who walked in your shoes and faced similar battles? Maybe even someone who went on to become a superstar in his or her own life? Identify him or her, but don’t put him or her up on a pedestal. Remember that he or she is a person just like you, who overcame the odds, or struggled through extreme hardship and persevered.
6. Become a visionary: You don’t have to be a guru to have a vision of the future. All it takes is a bit of imagination and the courage to reach for something bigger than your current reality. Give yourself at least 30 minutes of daily visualization to let your thoughts dig into this one. How does this vision of the future relate to your life today?
7. Identify the milestones: Set concrete goals for yourself that can be broken down into measurable pieces or milestones. If you want to lose 20 pounds, each 5-pound increment is the next milestone you should aim for and celebrate. Instead of shooting for a distant peak, it’s much more encouraging to set your sights on the corner at the end of the block.
8. Say it with pictures: Research says that 89% of what we learn is visual, 10% is auditory, and 1% comes through our other senses. Draw, photograph, or assemble a collage that represents your aim in life. Hang it on the wall or download it to your computer desktop as a reminder of what you’re working towards.
9. Play: If you feel like you’re toiling, take a break and interject some fun. Do something ridiculous. If you can’t think of anything, spend an hour or two watching 4-year olds play. Learn to enjoy the journey even more than the destination.
10. Ride the wave of change – don’t run from it: Like death and taxes, change is inevitable. However, resistance to change is common and causes untold amounts of struggle. Become a master evolutionist—respond to change eagerly and rapidly.

We all need a push once in a while. Choose instead to latch onto inspiration as a force that pulls you forward and you’ll discover that success can be effortless.

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Dave Gikandi has this to say about the LoA

“A lot of people have found the Law of Attraction to be powerful and effective for them. However, I have been approached by a few who claim it doesn’t work for them. There are also those who rightly observe that while it works, one must also take right action. In this video, I cover these and other related topics so that you can apply it extremely powerfully no matter who you are. It does work! But like anything else, using it well is a skill that is learned and improved upon. Enjoy!”

To see Dave’s video, go here: Does the Law of Attraction (As Seen on The Secret) Really Work? What About Action?

I don’t believe in any quantum justification for the Law of Attraction or in any magical part. That said, I do believe in the LoA for simpler reasons. The mind is a funny thing, you know? A total change of mind can come instantly and other times not at all.

I’ve noticed that as we cruise down the river of life if we think thoughts along the lines of, “Ok, I’m not going to hit that stump right there…” that we’ll hit it almost every time. Or… “Ok, I’m not going to be late for this, I’m not going to be late… Bah! I’m late again! How…?”

I’ve found that you have to focus your thoughts on where you want to go and what you want to do and maybe how you’re going to do it, but frequently when your head it in the right place the “how” will come to mind. I think we’ll miss most of the stumps that way. We’ll also start to notice that most of the stumps of life are of our own making.

So check out Dave’s video and see if it’s a good fit for you.

Joel, at Fearless Dreams, also has a few things to say on the Law of Attraction. Check it our here: Is there a Fatal Flaw in the Law of Attraction?

Now, if I asked you to name 3 things you could do to live a healthier lifestyle, I bet you’d say something like…

– eat more (organic) fruit and veggies
– drink more water
– get more exercise

Most of us have a pretty clear idea about WHAT to do, to be healthier.

So why aren’t we doing it?

Why does no-one ever tell us HOW to change, from where we are now, to a healhier way of life?

Sound too simple? Way back when I was studying Martial Arts (Bok Fu) a real live Major League baseball player signed up to take lessons. Really. This guy had won a couple of batting championships, so obviously knew his game.

He made an interesting remark at one point, along the lines of, “Everyone tells you TO concentrate, but no one tell you HOW to concentrate.” That HOW part was one of the reasons he was studying Martial Arts.

The good news is that once you’re aware of the HOW part, it’s actually quite simple to master personal change. THEN that permanently healthy lifestyle is well within your grasp.

That force for change (or staying where we are) is HABIT.

If you’ve ever tried to maintain a healthier lifestyle, you know just how hard it is to stop yourself slipping back. The problem is, how do you break unhealthy habits that have been with you for years, even decades?

Some people say it’s practically impossible. It can certainly be tough, especially with all the distractions from other people, events, and our own thinking. The good news it’s NOT impossible. You simply need to understand “habit” properly so you can make it work for you, instead of against you.

There’s a guy named Mike Kinnaird who suffered chronic illness for 13 years. The doctors and specialists had basically given up on him, but he poured any energy he had into discovering how to make permanent healthy
changes to his life, and he overcame his illness completely on his own…

He agreed to take on clients and found nearly everyone suffering with the same problem — “how to change.”

How do you get from where you are now to a permanently happy, healthy, energy-filled lifestyle?

Mike dreamed for YEARS about putting it all together and, until recently, it was still just a dream. But Mike’s eBook is now available and he says it’s probably the ONLY book he’ll ever write…

It’s called “The Habit Guide: How to be Happy and Healthy.”

Habit Guide contains 2 sections:

The Change section arms you with a powerful system for transforming habits and the Lifestyle section is Mike’s recommendation of what to aim for.

Yes, it really is that simple. Mike is a “keep is simple, keep it real” kind of guy because he’s seen firsthand WHAT WORKS. Habit Guide is the result of over 20 years passionate research, experience and coaching.

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We all know people who seem to be stuck in a situation, for no reason that we can understand. We give them the advice and wonder why they don’t move on. If we’re really honest we see it in ourselves.

The Gatekeeper
Why is it so hard to see the truth about ourselves?

We have so many desires and fears that color everything we think and see.
We’re not completely objective about anything.

But, it’s easier to look at someone else’s situation and see it more clearly, more truly.

Do you ever find yourself going in circles, unable to decide, unable to take action?
You feel the urge to move in some positive direction, and at the same time, you feel compelled to stay where you are, or move in some trivial way that is no movement at all.

Sometimes, we’re aware of being stuck, and it pains us.
Other times, we just dismiss it as no big deal.

Yet, when we look at others who are stuck like this, we can’t understand what’s wrong with them.

Read the rest, now: Are You Acting Like a Spoiled Child?

One of the things that keeps us trapped is negative thinking. We focus on the bad and keep ourselves safe to “protect” ourselves. There are a few thanks that one can do, to change that thinking.

Stop the negative thinking.

What do you think?

But the Ego is essential to our sense of well being, confidence, self-esteem, etc.  Here’s a killer aticle on the subject:

One consistent and popular theme concerning the Ego is it is looked upon as bad and something we have to constantly work to get rid of. I myself fell into constantly berating the ego and fighting against it. Doing this unknowingly created an on going and increasing problem for myself. The more I fought against the ego, the more confused I became, and less confident I felt. If you have experienced much of the same, let me explain what happen that changed all that for me.

Here’s the rest: The #1 Most Common Goof In Personal Development Is Trying To Get Rid Of Your Ego