We are in the driver’s seat and we have to get past a few issues to move on. Fear holds us back, not the “other guy.” Fear is a habit and if we can get past the fear we can move far beyond where ever we are now.

Case in point, our new (US) Pesident, Mr. Obama. All politics aside, if the stories are true about his very humble beginnings (what, Pols don’t exaggerate, just a bit?) you have a guy starting from pretty much zero and making it to the top of the pecking order.

That’s some major heavy-duty accomplishment.

He got there because he put himself in the right place. He put aside any fears, worked his *** off, made the right connections, made his own luck, and now he’s got the top job.

I really enjoyed this post, which really goes into what holds us back:

You have great potential inside of you. I have great potential inside of me, too. The thought of realizing this potential can be paralyzing and it can be frightening. There have been many times when my fear has held me back and kept me from experiencing the happiness or success I wanted.

Fear can keep us stuck in a place where we believe we are not good enough. Fear can keep us from realizing our dreams and it can keep us from creating the life we want.

Fear can also hold us back.

When I was a boy I loved to play baseball. My family lived in a rural setting which did not provide Little League or youth baseball opportunities. Instead, I would play catch with my father or pretend I was playing in a big league game complete with line-up cards I would fill out for both teams (I always batted third and played first base for the winning team) and a uniform I got from a Sears catalog.

At age 14, we moved to a more suburban setting. There was finally a chance for me to play real baseball with real players. I was horrified…

What’s Holding You Back?

Joel has another killer post at Fearless Dreams:

Laughter and jokes and play are undervalued in our serious adult world.

We think of all of these as entertainment, just a way to escape the stress and burdens of a threatening world which weighs us down.

Do you ever feel like you’re carrying more than you can bear?
Laughter picks up those burdens, and takes them away from us, if only for a moment.

A break from our worries is great.
But laughter is much more than an escape.

Laughter can heal.

Here’s the rest: Are You Afraid to Laugh?

Wow. What a show, from just about any way that you want to look at it.

The Chinese are reported to have spend 50 billion dollars on the event, with all the new construction, festival, support services, coordinating upwards of a million volunteers, training, consumes, infinite tiny little details, etc.

And the athletes. Wow. Forget for a minute the issues about a few of them being under-aged, or on drugs, or flopping, or even the what China is like being the scenes.

The athletes are the show. The pageantry is awesome, but it’s not the show. The show is all about the years of training, work, and sacrifice that it takes just to be considered for the Olympic team, much less hit the gold. Imagine the habits that have to be formed and the attitude that these people need to develop.

Nerves? Part of the training they work on is getting past the nerves and the fear. Hard enough doing a talk in front of your group at work, now imagine doing a routine on the balance beam in front of 4 billion people.

How many times does a sprinter work on the launch? How about that little bend over they do when crossing the finish line?

Most of the actions these people do they’ve done to the point where they become habit, and how many times does one have to practice a Vault for that habit to happen?

Getting the Focus

They’re way beyond the “Ok, now I have to do this thing this way and I have to look for this point and I hope I don’t…” With the rare exception where concentration cracks a bit they’ve developed the habit (yeah, I say it’s a habit) of focusing exactly what they want to do and on shutting out all distractions.

I’d even say that most of them aren’t even aware of the audience when they’re doing whatever their event or routine happens to be, especially for the short events. Obviously in a team sport, such as Soccer, the teams are aware of the audience and their cheers and jeers. Still, the habits and the focus are where they have to be.

Now I’m the last person anyone would ever think of as Olympic material, but I did some Martial Arts for awhile. At times the going was easy and at times it was just hard. They easy parts were when I had the training habit down and a routine established, which made the concentration easy.

It’s way too easy to lose that habit.

Even the little habits, much less what it takes to Pole Vault in front of a billion or two people, can drop out of whack with surprisingly little effort.

But if we can find a way to lock in the actions and thoughts which create good habits then we’re on the road to where we want to be. Obviously all those marvelous Olympians, even the one who weren’t competitive, had those habits.

Nothing’s stopping us from developing ours, but the “how” part can be hard, and a little help is nice. The Athletes have their coaches, mentors, support, etc. and there’s not reason that we can’t have the same.

There’s a book which will help you on this path: the Habit guide.

It’s a great way to start building the right habits that are needed to hit your goals, even if they aren’t balance beam routines.

Get your copy of this very helpful book, here.

More Resources for Creating Good Habits:

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Back To School – 17 Good Habits For A Successful Life – It is an indicator of whether you mean what you say and can be trusted. Do not introduce doubt about this into people’s minds by showing up later than expected. Create the habit of being punctual now and you won’t have to worry. …

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